Girl boss or Leadhers?


I saw this hashtag on Instagram a few weeks back. Then discovered it was a title of a book. Founder of Nasty Gal. I haven't checked to see if the library has a copy yet. I wouldn't buy it, definitely would have to be a library share or borrow. 

Earlier I posted a quote on Instagram as I typically do and I used the hashtag #girlboss it made me think how the term boss doesn't sit well with me. I'm big on words & what we speak out of our mouths. 


I want to be a leader. I am a leader. Natural born. 

Mya Angelou passed last week and she was a leader. Oprah is a leader. True innovaters leading to change. Who remembers bosses?!? Most people don't even like their boss. I remember I used to always correct a supervisor when he would introduce himself as my boss. No boo, you're my supervisor. No one is my boss...I control me. 

Words are simply words. I get it. Maybe my rebellion was just showing out.

But words have meanings that we've all grown to know. Isn't that why we had vocabulary in elementary? It wasn't enough for us to spell them correctly; we had to know what they meant, and how to use them correctly.

Remember you're striving for a purposeful life. 

Here are some words I avoid using: Can't. Hope. 

Can't- unless it's not humanly possible, then I won't say "can't"...I may need to say I don't want to...or I don't want to try. Those tend to be more accurate. 

Hope-hope is a contradiction. Instead of believing we insert a bit of uncertainty. "I hope you have a good day." Eliminate the possibility of the negative and state "have an amazing day!" Or "I hope this happens..." You don't have faith that it will occur when you say hope.

According to the authors of Words Can Change Your Brain:

By holding a positive and optimistic [word] in your mind, you stimulate frontal lobe activity. This area includes specific language centers that connect directly to the motor cortex responsible for moving you into action. And as our research has shown, the longer you concentrate on positive words, the more you begin to affect other areas of the brain. Functions in the parietal lobe start to change, which changes your perception of yourself and the people you interact with. A positive view of yourself will bias you toward seeing the good in others, whereas a negative self-image will include you toward suspicion and doubt. Over time the structure of your thalamus will also change in response to your conscious words, thoughts, and feelings, and we believe that the thalamic changes affect the way in which you perceive reality.

So not only am I a leader. I am a leadHER and I'm all for EmpowHERment. 

What one word should you stop using?!? Let me know over on Facebook