Dreams aren't free and change is hard!



Happy October! I realized that the last quarter of the year is upon us.  What does that mean?!?

Today is October 1st, from today until December 31st you have the opportunity to potentially complete one -three goals.  

Start working on your goals for 2014 and beyond! Personally, I think New Year’s Resolutions are overrated and definitely underperformed. However, this is the time that society has suggested as a great time to make changes. If you don’t know by now, I’m not a fan of “society” and its suggested rules. Whenever I feel like there’s an issue that needs to be addressed or fixed, that’s when I tackle it. If my Huni was doing something that drove me crazy, I wouldn’t wait until January to tell him we needed to work on that. Resolutions are silly. Real solutions are ideal.

I hate to be the one to break it to you, dreams don’t come true. I hope I didn’t kill any vibes. I just see so many people living in fake realities day dreaming. I don’t want that for you.

We create our dream life, but if we never put forth action, it will remain a dream. When you attach goals with actionable steps with the end result being your dream, life is all good! Goals turn dreams into reality.

1.       Get out paper and brainstorm ideas. If you are already aware of a potential goal, then brain dump.

Only 3% of people write down their goals. This is an imperative part of the process.

2.       Narrow it down to the top three ideas. If you aren’t excited about three, stick to two or just one.

Excitement and passion will help you to complete the goal. Work isn’t fun and change is hard. Necessary, but hard. So ensure you are excited and happy about the end result. When I was trying to lose my baby weight after my son, my birthday dress was the excitement. Not the dreadful workouts or change in eating habits.

3.       Be very specific.

Don’t just say you want to own your own business. What type of business is it? What’s the name of the business? What will it take to start this business?  With this type of goal, you will need to use short term goals to get you to your ultimate goal. How much do you want to make? What will it take to get to this goal? What research do you need to do?

4.       Make the goal measurable.

How will you measure your success in completing the goal? If your goal is to save more money, then a measurable goal would be that in one month I will have saved 10% of my income.

5.       Use guidelines not rules.

If you want to lose 5 pounds, don’t give yourself a rule that you can’t eat after 8 pm. Sometimes situations occur that prevent rules from being carried out. Rules are meant to be broken. Rules are “you can’t do this or that.” Guidelines; however, leave room for adjustments. With your fat loss plan, you can eat after 8 pm if you were working out late and need an after workout snack. Guidelines give you room to roll with the punches.  Guidelines are “if this, then this..,” you are essentially preparing yourself for hiccups in your plan, to avoid disappointments and quitting.

6.       Schedules over deadlines.

Deadlines produce anxiety, anxiety slows down progress. Schedules are casual and easier to include in your day to day life. Instead of saying by December 31, 2013 I will have written my book. Break it down: Every day for October I will write 2,000 words. In November I will come up with a title and continue writing 2,000 words, if the book isn’t where I want it. Weekly you will add these items to your schedule. It takes off the pressure of a set deadline.

7.       Acknowledge what you’re giving up to obtain this goal.

8.       Examine your resistance.

Let’s face it- we get in our own way!

Your future and dream life is totally up to you! Stop holding yourself back! Thoughts of inadequacy, fear, comparison, and uncertainty are so not cute. Yeah, we all have them, but we have to focus on the bigger picture.

Live. Love. Action

1.       Get your paper out today and brainstorm the goal that you are going to work on for this last quarter. 

2.       Love yourself enough to take action.

3.       Your dream is worth the required work.

I want to try to do a monthly motivational meetup on google hangout. Would you be interested? Email me and we can get that started this month!