Circle "Yes" or "No" to yourself...stop giving others the pen

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As a kid I always needed to know why. I asked a lot of questions. There wasn't Google or wifi back in my day.

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If you wanted to know something you asked. So I asked questions all the time to any and everyone.

My father is a very scholarly man (he has several post graduate degrees...masters {plural} and an unrelated PhD). Daddy Warbucks values knowledge, dedication, and hard work.

So he wouldn't just GIVE me the answer(s) to ALL my queries.

Instead he gave me tools to figure things and life out.

Let me just tell you NO 7 years old little girl wants encyclopedias as gifts. Now an iPad for on the go and an iMac...yes please sign them up!

Daddy Warbucks even made me do book reports if he felt I needed to "learn" something related to a question I may have asked. Growing up I was conflicted that my father was half CRAY and half brilliant. To top it off my father is hilarious and incredibly kind. 

My mama on the other hand is a therapist who began as a nurse so she's very optimistic and caring, YET rational. Rational and logical to the point where if your feelings are hurt easily she will slice and dice those bad boys then help you to process your emotions.

Talk about reverse psychology.

Holistic home life full of travel, rich education and experiences, but most importantly  love. The good life.

Fast forward >>because life goes forward.

I was about to graduate college and decided I must go to graduate school because I knew I needed to put my dent in the world in a BIG way.  

To get in grad school you have to write long essays convincing the board why you are a perfect fit. Crazy? I have to convince you to award me the opportunity to give you 60k on top of all the hard work I did in undergrad & passing the GRE with exceptional scores (the second time but who is counting-I only claim to be 85% awesome).

I applied to two universities, one for a PsyD program and one for a masters. I got into both programs. The PsyD program still wanted me to prove myself, I had to interview with the board.

Being the little girl that asked why and inquired about everything...I went in the interview asking them questions. My rationale was at this point to get a PsyD was $120,000, what could they offer me and why were they a good fit for making my dreams come true. I became the interviewer.

The board told me how amazing I was. I thought to myself DUH!!! Didn't they see my GPA, my essay was stellar, my GRE was short of perfect and my recommendations were God sends.

And then they asked me if I wanted to "try" the masters program because my “spunk and amazing” may just not be right for their program.

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Immediately I wanted to tell them with all my “spunk” where they could go. However, I wasn't a fool. I asked why one last time.

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The quietest board member told me sharply "hunay because no one in this room has the balls to tell you that they are scared to see what wonders you will do with their training that they  haven't even managed to do."

That was the answer my hurting soul needed. I wasn't sad nor was I angry. I didn't know if she just said it to make me feel better because at this point I know my feelings were all over my face if not fleeting from my tear ducts. The other board members were trying to put on a poker face so I assumed she hit a nerve and was genuine.

"Thank you so much" I smiled as I left the room. 

I am thankful for all of those who said NO to me. It’s because of them I’m doing it myself.
— Albert Einstein

The next day I enrolled in the other university’s masters program.

Amazing decision: the professors were free and liberal thinkers. Pretty rare in the psychology field. I met two of my best friends/sisters. I couldn't imagine life without them. Those two years my life began. Not a career but my whole life began and I evolved.

To rewind for a second: (because we do that in life too-reflection is amazing when you pull the lessons learned out)

The board member that told me how awesome I was contacted me and offered me a position to consult for her private practice business. Between her and my at the time mentor they taught me everything I needed to know about running a business offline and the structures on top of essential training in psychology.

The PsyD program sent a letter a week after my interview saying I was accepted to their program with a two year scholarship.

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I laughed.

3 Chic Tips To Mastery:

1. Say yes to yourself. Say yes to your dreams. Say yes to your happiness. Say yes. Don't leave it in anyone else's hands.

2. Ask questions. Ask google. Learn everything you can about the things that perplex you. Seek understanding from those that you KNOW can help you to get where you want to be. If you aren't sure if they can help...keep seeking until you know. Lies & confusion you can find on your own.

3. Shine bright!! Gatekeepers were designed to hold you back. When you choose yourself and say yes, it doesn't matter what they say or do.






We Made It - Happy New Year + a download

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Mama we made it!

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If we were to ever hang out, which we really should in 2015 I would probably blurt that out randomly. You would be having such an amazing time that you wouldn't mind my animated silliness.

This year has been incredible.

IN-CRED-I-BLE

I can't pinpoint one thing or even ten that made this year so awesome, but that in itself just shows how miraculous it was.

For the record I hate all those buzz words (juicy, magical, miraculous) I see them everywhere which demeans the juicy magical miraculous goodness people were intending.

Off the record I think you're amazing and we can use that word as often as we please!

My wish for you is that you reflect on the last hours that we have in 2014 and truly examine the past year.

What are you grateful for?

When did fear and doubt almost stop you in your tracks?

What challenged you the most?

What were your three biggest WINS?

Who did you support?

Who supported you?

Describe a good day in 2014

Describe a remarkable day in 2014

What new experiences did you have?

What baggage did you pick up this year?

Save these questions to your google drive so you can easily reflect on your own.

I also wish that you take time in the next few days entering 2015 and visualize on how you want your year to look. Take your time with this. When done right this process is amazing *insert juicy, magical, or miraculous if you must*

I challenge you to unsubscribe from emails and newsletters that you don't read. If by chance I fall in that category, I wish you nothing but the best. Anything that isn't serving you don't take it with you to 2015, friday, next week, or next month. That's anytime.

That junk drawer in your kitchen and office, sort through it and get rid of all that junk. Fabulous Solopreneurs only have junk in one place and it isn't in a drawer.

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Secondly I challenge you to set aside four days in 2015 exclusively for you. If you want to sleep all day or pamper yourself. Whatever you fancy..four days...they don't have to be consecutive. You'll thank me next year. You're welcome in advance.

Thirdly I challenge you to verbalize the one thing that you hate doing in your business and create a system to optimize it if you aren't in a position to outsource it.

In January I’m hosting a series of webinars and trainings on organization and productivity. If these fall under your one thing, join me and I'll help you sort it out. I promise I won't embarrass you and scream "Mama we made it."

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Happy New Year my love! May 2015 be filled with your hearts desires and lots of laughter. Oh and of course automation and a chic streamlined business.

Virtual Board of Advisors

The past two weeks I've been doing a lot of work with my non-profit board. The brillance that my board brings overwhelms me. Initially I was apprehensive to having a board of directors. However, a non profit organization requires boards for multiple reasons which I now understand.

If you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room.

I decided I needed a virtual Board of Advisors. Here's my board:

Oprah

Beyonce

Myleik Teele founder of CurlBox

Maya Angelou

Steve Jobs

Barack Obama

Michelle Obama

Serena Williams

Kelly Cutrone

Darren Hardy

Iyanla Vanzant

Just as with my Board for Divasinc. I learn and apply from these amazing individuals and apply the lessons to my life and businesses. I read their books, I pay attention to what they do as well as what they say. If they recommend a book or another amazing mind, I check that person or resource out.  

I know some people idolize celebrities and this isn't what any of this is about. Although I do love me some Beyonce. This is about taking inspiration from their success. When Beyonce released Beyonce without any marketing and informed the world via instagram at midnight *picks life off the floor* I immediately purchased it. Then was in awe at her tactic. She created New Rules. And those rules are there aren't any rules. You want "it," go get "it." Everyone talked about the release.

That's one thing about all of my advisors. They all are game changers and have made their own way. 

I try to take what they say and represent then filter it to work for me. 

Live. Love. Action

1. Who is on your virtual Board of Advisors? 

2. Who inspires you? 

3. Take it a step further. What gems do they give that you can apply to your life and business?